This post has stuff about religion and a previous relationship. My perspective has changed
Professor, author and activist Robert Jensen made the point in his book Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity that although we as a country often refer to ourselves as kind and supportive of women that we are actually a country which supports the cruel and degrading treatment of them.
His primary focus is on the pornography industry and the increasing level of humiliating and violent acts that are becoming more and more common in pornographic movies. I thought he made a good point: you’d think that as a whole our nation would be repulsed by men hitting, dominating, using, and generally objectifying women but it’s really not the case. Porn is big business, and it’s filled with this stuff.
So here’s something that struck me as very poignant while I pondered Jensen’s case. If we, as men, are looking at porn (even “soft core” porn) we’re not only absolutely altering our internal perspectives of women for the worse, but we’re contributing to a society that is hostile toward them.
I don’t know about you, but all the Christian books I’ve read, including really great books like Every Man’s Battle, have not dissuaded me from looking at pornography as much as that single point has. From the excerpts I’ve read, although graphically explicit, wholly secular and feminist as they are, this is a book I’d like to get my hands on.